I need your help. I used to go out with this guy but we broke up. He has moved on but has shown that there is a chance we could happen again soon. I still love him and want to be with him, but I have been talking to this guy I know for a couple of days and maybe have started to catch some feelings. This other guy does make me feel really happy and I want to continue to talk to him to see where our relationship could go. I do not know what to do, please help!
— Stuck Between Two
Dear Stuck Between Two,
There is a quote which says, “If you love two people at the same time, choose the second, because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.” I really like that quote because it’s so true. I would, in my honest opinion, move on. No guy who truly cares about you should put you through so much heartache.
What you need to do is pause. Take a look at your life and what makes you happy. If this other guy makes you happy, choose him. Regardless of what you choose, you can’t change the past. If your ex has moved on, you probably should too. Don’t give him the power to play with your heart like it sounds like he’s doing. It sounds like you really care about this other guy, and if he cares about you, you should give him a shot.
Whatever happens, I hope it works out, but above all, I’m going to say, choose yourself. Make sure you are taking your mental and emotional health into account. Don’t worry about boys if it means hurting you. At the end of the day, you are going to have to live with whatever you decide, so don’t rush into anything and take all sides and pros and cons into account. I wish you the best of luck.